"He loved me, he promised to always take care of me, he said he will
never leave me for someone else! Now. My heart is shattered, bruised
and battered beyond recognition. I am going to die! Yes I will; I
can't help it anymore! - Clara
There were the exact words of Clara after a sudden breakup call from
her boyfriend. You can tell how she feels from each line of her words
and I must say, that's not encouraging.
Now what do we understand by the term 'Heartbreak'?
We hear people use the word a lot in diverse circumstances but do we
know the actual fact, or what it actually entails to be heartbroken?
Heartbreaks could be discarded in different ways:-
It could be a very strong feeling of sadness, disappointment and
agonizing grief and anguish towards a situation or someone.
Its the feeling of regret, sorrow grief and overwhelming disappointment.
Its an emotional pain or suffering, an empty feeling that aches after
the end of. An affair (Love).
Critically analyzing the above definitions we could agree that been
heartbroken boils down to diverse circumstances. A mother may loss her
only child to an accident or better still. A man losing his entire
family to a plane crash or an inferno; these are circumstances that
boils down to been heartbroken.
Ok I know you might think that I am forgetting something right? Come
on how could I?
Alright I'd say if the most common and populous form of heartbreak is
that which contains relationships; love affairs! Yeah everyone is a
victim, I know even I, your writer have been to that planet, I had
taste of it too and I must confess, It has a sour taste.
Alright back to the topic of the day. Take for example, the case of
Clara a female teenager having an affair with Paul a male teenager who
promised to love her with his life at any cost and also promised to
spend the rest of his life with her. She got engaged to him prior his
intentions to marry her.
Now marriage plans had been made with consent of both families only
for Paul to wake up one morning with a sudden change of mind towards
Clara, thereby pulling a call through to Clara informing her that he's
no longer interested.
What a shocker? This he did without remorse. Now that call had an
adverse effect on Clara disorganizing her physically, emotional and
psychologically; that's why she said those words of regrets.
Now you see, that an emotional heartbreak, a concrete example with
proper description what conclusion can you draw from Paul's action
towards Clara? Yeah I know you just said she deserves to die, but does
that made Clara's broken heart? I guess no!
Emotional heartbreak is when someone recklessly plays with your heart,
breaks if and shatters it in ways you never thought it could.
Its the kind that comes along when you have to watch the person you
love, love someone else. Hey! That's enough; I don't want to make you
cry ok? LOL.
Alright that for that. Now let's have a closer look at the effects of
emotional heartbreaks. What harm does it course? Can it make one
commit suicide? Can it change someone's attitude towards love
permanently?
Research has it that heartbreaks affect the heart in these use that
your adrenal glands starts churning out the hormones cortisol and
adrenaline, the contars of the body's fight or flight stress response
depending on how bad the breakup was, your stress hormones are
anywhere from simmering to skyrocketing and they are likely ratcheting
up your blood pressure, emotional heartbreaks also boils down to the
feeling of rejection.
Rejection sends blood flow to the secondary somatosensory corten and
the dorsal posterior insular of the brain and that's why you may feel
achy all over not just in your heat.
Your immune system might as well be affected thereby making it hard
for system to fight infections and keep virus under control that
eventually leads to developing a cold sore.
Now I guess you know that a broken heart can cause physical and
emotional trauma to the heart and the immune cells. haven stated the
effects, I will love to drive into the remedy. I know you can't wait
to read on.
Have you ever been in love? How was it? Horrible isn't it? It makes
you so weak to face the truth when it stand looking at you in the eyes
telling you that what you feel can't always work out the way you want
them to.
'Love' It Open your chest and if opens up your heart and it means that
someone can get inside you and mess you up now how do we, or can we
erase that mess? If we can how do we start?
Too many questions now is time to give an answer to the mush awaited
topic which is remedy.
When you breakup with someone there's always this deep pain inside you
that you wish you never feel. To let that pain go you have to cry, yes
it may sound like 'cry' yes when you cry your heart automatically gets
information to let that pain go, for example a woman just lost her
child the first thing she dose it cry during that process the pain of
her losing her child is fading away at that point in time.
You have to sometimes lie to yourself, I know what's running through
your mind now, you are say what will lying to my self going to do with
heartbreak or a broken heart. The truth is that lie have his own part
to play in making you forget about your heartbreak, you can lie most
time that you never loved that person when you lie take it as the
truth with time you will see that your love for that person is dying.
Look for the wrong side of that person and try to forget the good side
of him/her. When you do so, you will see that you are completely free
from what you feel for him/her.
The pin point of it all is always be around the people that truly
cares about you, go out always hangout with friends, because when you
are all by yourself the picture of you being with your ex or lost one
will always reflect and run through your mind.
I hope my contribution to heartbreak is helpful.... Thanks for
reading.... Always come back for more on issues of life.
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