Hidden Love In Friendship

He was her child hood friend, he was always there for her when ever
she needs someone to be by her side, she has fallen in love with him,
but couldn't let out what she feels, for she was afraid that it may
ruin her friendship with him so it better for her to keep what she
feels to her self.

She cries every night because she can't have him to herself, it kills
her when ever he tells her about the girl he has a crush on, not
knowing that the love he is looking for in that girl is always right
next to him, he belongs to her but not in the way she wants, he
belongs to her but she wanted him to feel her in his arms, he belongs
to her but she can't feel his hands running through her hair, he
belongs to her but she can't hear him call her "my love".

Now its time for prom, the night she always imagine while she was much
younger, she always wish that her prince will come and take her to
prom in a chariot kissing her hands as he walk her to the chariot, but
all that where just an imagination that will not come through because
she has no prince.

Here comes her best friend whom she love with the deepest part of her
heart, she wished he was going to ask her to be his prom date, her
hope was high up praying and thinking God that her dreams will finally
come true, but to her greatest disappointment he was here to ask to
her help to ask a girl out for prom, that kills her and breaks her
heart all over again, but she managed to simile and promised to help
him out.

She finally did, she had helped him out with some other girl when
truly she is the right one for him. Now its time for prom she has no
date for the night so she decided to stay at home because she can't
help it seeing her lover dancing with some other girl not her.

He waited but didn't see her, he misses every thing about her, he is
in love with her but he don't want to ruin their friendship, it is
better to keep what he feels to himself, but as the music plays he
couldn't help but think of one person that means the world to him,
that's, his so called best friend. Finally he made up is mind and pull
a call through to herself phone telling her that he is coming to pick
her up.

Getting there, she was already angry thinking he was here to ask her
to talk to another girl for him, she was feed up of always helping him
out when she can't tell him how she truly feels, he is here now, he
smiled and gave her a little box but she was too angry to open it,
thinking it was the name of the next girl she's going to help him out
with, so she throw it away, as the boy ran to get it without watching
before crossing a big vehicle hit him, she ran to help him when she
got there he gave her the little box again this time she opened it and
this is what was in the little box a letter that goes this way.

My best friend, I promised to be best friends with you but my emotions
can't take it anymore I am in love with you. I am getting bored with
this friend zoning, I only ask you to help me out with girls issues
just to see how you will react for me to be sure if you love me as a
friend or not, but each time I ask you to help me out I always read
the looks on your face, I finally discovered that you loved me. I have
been waiting for this moment to tell you that I will love you till the
stop of my last breath. I..... Love.... You....

As she closed the pepper tears fell off her face so was the last
breath from a great friend, a lover and a brother stopped his heart
stopped her love was gone.

By Beausteven

truth about heartbreak and remedy

"He loved me, he promised to always take care of me, he said he will
never leave me for someone else! Now. My heart is shattered, bruised
and battered beyond recognition. I am going to die! Yes I will; I
can't help it anymore! - Clara

There were the exact words of Clara after a sudden breakup call from
her boyfriend. You can tell how she feels from each line of her words
and I must say, that's not encouraging.

Now what do we understand by the term 'Heartbreak'?

We hear people use the word a lot in diverse circumstances but do we
know the actual fact, or what it actually entails to be heartbroken?

Heartbreaks could be discarded in different ways:-

It could be a very strong feeling of sadness, disappointment and
agonizing grief and anguish towards a situation or someone.

Its the feeling of regret, sorrow grief and overwhelming disappointment.

Its an emotional pain or suffering, an empty feeling that aches after
the end of. An affair (Love).

Critically analyzing the above definitions we could agree that been
heartbroken boils down to diverse circumstances. A mother may loss her
only child to an accident or better still. A man losing his entire
family to a plane crash or an inferno; these are circumstances that
boils down to been heartbroken.

Ok I know you might think that I am forgetting something right? Come
on how could I?

Alright I'd say if the most common and populous form of heartbreak is
that which contains relationships; love affairs! Yeah everyone is a
victim, I know even I, your writer have been to that planet, I had
taste of it too and I must confess, It has a sour taste.

Alright back to the topic of the day. Take for example, the case of
Clara a female teenager having an affair with Paul a male teenager who
promised to love her with his life at any cost and also promised to
spend the rest of his life with her. She got engaged to him prior his
intentions to marry her.

Now marriage plans had been made with consent of both families only
for Paul to wake up one morning with a sudden change of mind towards
Clara, thereby pulling a call through to Clara informing her that he's
no longer interested.

What a shocker? This he did without remorse. Now that call had an
adverse effect on Clara disorganizing her physically, emotional and
psychologically; that's why she said those words of regrets.

Now you see, that an emotional heartbreak, a concrete example with
proper description what conclusion can you draw from Paul's action
towards Clara? Yeah I know you just said she deserves to die, but does
that made Clara's broken heart? I guess no!

Emotional heartbreak is when someone recklessly plays with your heart,
breaks if and shatters it in ways you never thought it could.

Its the kind that comes along when you have to watch the person you
love, love someone else. Hey! That's enough; I don't want to make you
cry ok? LOL.

Alright that for that. Now let's have a closer look at the effects of
emotional heartbreaks. What harm does it course? Can it make one
commit suicide? Can it change someone's attitude towards love
permanently?

Research has it that heartbreaks affect the heart in these use that
your adrenal glands starts churning out the hormones cortisol and
adrenaline, the contars of the body's fight or flight stress response
depending on how bad the breakup was, your stress hormones are
anywhere from simmering to skyrocketing and they are likely ratcheting
up your blood pressure, emotional heartbreaks also boils down to the
feeling of rejection.

Rejection sends blood flow to the secondary somatosensory corten and
the dorsal posterior insular of the brain and that's why you may feel
achy all over not just in your heat.

Your immune system might as well be affected thereby making it hard
for system to fight infections and keep virus under control that
eventually leads to developing a cold sore.

Now I guess you know that a broken heart can cause physical and
emotional trauma to the heart and the immune cells. haven stated the
effects, I will love to drive into the remedy. I know you can't wait
to read on.

Have you ever been in love? How was it? Horrible isn't it? It makes
you so weak to face the truth when it stand looking at you in the eyes
telling you that what you feel can't always work out the way you want
them to.

'Love' It Open your chest and if opens up your heart and it means that
someone can get inside you and mess you up now how do we, or can we
erase that mess? If we can how do we start?

Too many questions now is time to give an answer to the mush awaited
topic which is remedy.

When you breakup with someone there's always this deep pain inside you
that you wish you never feel. To let that pain go you have to cry, yes
it may sound like 'cry' yes when you cry your heart automatically gets
information to let that pain go, for example a woman just lost her
child the first thing she dose it cry during that process the pain of
her losing her child is fading away at that point in time.

You have to sometimes lie to yourself, I know what's running through
your mind now, you are say what will lying to my self going to do with
heartbreak or a broken heart. The truth is that lie have his own part
to play in making you forget about your heartbreak, you can lie most
time that you never loved that person when you lie take it as the
truth with time you will see that your love for that person is dying.

Look for the wrong side of that person and try to forget the good side
of him/her. When you do so, you will see that you are completely free
from what you feel for him/her.

The pin point of it all is always be around the people that truly
cares about you, go out always hangout with friends, because when you
are all by yourself the picture of you being with your ex or lost one
will always reflect and run through your mind.

I hope my contribution to heartbreak is helpful.... Thanks for
reading.... Always come back for more on issues of life.

Understanding Faith

Faith is like an intense hope, Its like a space in our heart, a space
that we can't see can feel, it works in a way you cant explain, it
more of hoping by believing in everything you lay your heart on.

I don't know about others, but I try as mush as possible to believe in
everything I hear, read and see which I believe comes from the
teaching of God's words.

I believe in myself and in God, I try to differentiate between the bad
and the good by reading my bible each and everyday which helps me to
build up my faith, one of the best thing that I love about faith is,
it helps me work towards good deed and I put all my faith there.


As long as we believe that there's nothing impossible as long as we
have faith and when we water that faith by studying the world of God
always, our faith will continue to always grow.

As you can see faith is really a deep and lovely aspect of human life
it takes faith for a man too wake up in the morning, open is business
hoping that someone will come and patronize his or her business, you
may not notice, believe it or not you are exhibiting the act of faith.

Let's take reference to the most important book In the world that is
our bible, Hebrews 11 verse 3, says: 'by faith we understand that the
world's' were frames by the 'word' of God, so that the 'things' which
are 'seen' were not 'made' of the things which are 'visible'.

Reading that verse, I think its telling us that God created the whole
world with just 'words' and nothing else, He created the waters,
stars, moon, animals etc by words of faith, just like what the bible
said we are small gods, so if we are Christians (Christ-like), we
should learn to use faith in every single thing we do or say.

Things we should learn to do as Christians is:

1) We should learn to make changes just by 'visualizing or just talking'

2) We should create that space of deep desire and connection with God

3) We should speak by faith, act by faith in any situation we find
ourselves, be it good or bad.

Examples of people that had faith and used there faith in the bible are:

Abraham, Noah, Moses, David, Samuel, Gideon, Ruth, Deborah, Isaiah,
Elijah, Elisha, Jecob and even Jesus. The list are endless.

God told Abraham to leave his father's house and just go to no where,
to a land he has never been too or heard of, Abraham had to idea,
where he was going or what he was going to do there, how he will be
able to live his normal life there, but he obeyed God with so much
faith.

Noah, God just told him to build an ark, gave him description and he
obeyed without fear or questioning.

Jesus wonders by faith: He turned water to wine and many other great
miracles done by him are the manifestations of faith.

With all this you will agree with me that faith indeed the most
important part of you being a Christian and remember that without
faith, no man can please God.

By Diana Ufuah and co-write by Beausteven ag Ilekhuoba

ARTUCLE 6, 7 of Irowa Obazee/Igunbor Constitution

OFFICERS OF THE COMMUNITY

The officers of the Community Development Association shall be as follows:

I. Chairman

II. Vice Chairman

III. Secretary

IV. Assistant Secretary

V. Financial Secretary

VI. Treasurer

VII. Publicity Secretary (PRO)

VIII. Assistant Publicity Secretary

IX. Auditor

X. Social and Welfare Officer

XI. Assistant Welfare Officer

XII. Provost

XIII. Two Ex-officio

XIV. Standing Committee Chairman

XV. Legal Adviser

XVI. Youth Leader



ARTICLE 7

7.1 APPOINTMENT OF OFFICERS

A. The appointment of officers shall be by consensus of voting
in the general meeting of the community.

B. Any vacancy that occurs through resignation, death, long
absence from the community ot removal by resolution of the general
meeting shall be filled temporarily by the Executive Committee of the
CDA until a new officer is appointed by election or consensus in a
general meeting.

C. Any landlord/landlady that fails to pay his/her dues shall
not be eligible for any office.

D. Any Bini landlorf who had risen to the position of Odionwere
and have not been paying his dues of cooperating with the Community is
not entitled to the position of Odionwere or any office in the
community. Without prejudice to the positions of the Edionwere, the
two, Edionwere shall perform the traditional roles as obtainable in
other communities. They are the Advisers of the Community Development
Association as well as being the Chairman and vice chairman of the
Board of Trustees respectively.

7.2 TENURE OF OFFICE:

A. Officers elected under article 7.1 above shall bold
office for a period of four years.

B. A person so elected in the first instance shall qualify
to be re-elected for a second tenure of four years if found suitable.

C. No person should hold office for more than two tenures.

ARTICLE 4, 5 of Irowa Obazee/Igunbor Constitution

Membership

- Qualification: Membership shall be mandatory for all landlords,
landladies, caretakers, churches, industrialist, workshop and shop
owners/office owners in the Community.

- Registration: Names of the above members shall be compiled with the
numbers of their houses, churches, industrialist, workshop, office and
workshop written against their names.

- Obligation of Members: Every member shall be bound to further or
abide to the best of his or her ability, the objectives, interest and
influence of the community and shall observe all the bye-laws, rules
and regulations of the community.

ARTICLE 5

Organs Of The Association

- General Meeting: The supreme authority shall be vested in the
general meeting of members who will decide on the general policies and
directive principles of the community.

- Subject to that authority, the community shall be administered by
the Executive Committee of Development Association (CDA)

- The Executive Committee:

I) The officers of the community with two ex-officio members to be
appointed by the general house shall constitute the Executive
Committee of the Community Development Association.

II) The business of the community shall be managed by the Executive
Committee of the CDA who may exercise all such powers of the Community
on its behalf and such acts as may be delegated to it by the general
meeting.

III) The General House shall have power at anytime and from time to
time to appoint any member to fill a casual vacancy among members of
the Committee, but any member so appointed shall hold office only
until such a time that the vacancy may be eligible for consideration
to the post.

IV) A member of the Executive Committee of the CDA shall cease to hold office:

• If he by notice in writing to the Community resigns his office.

• If he becomes of unsound mind.

• If he leaves the community permanently.

• If he is removed from office on the grounds of dishonesty, found,
insubordination or declining productivity.

V) The Executive Committee of the CDA shall have power from time to
time to make suggestions to alter and repeal these bye-laws as they
may deem it necessary or expedient or convenient for proper conduct
and management of the community and shall bring such additions or
repeals or alterations to the general meeting for approval.

VI) Any member who desires any section of this constitution to be
amended shall make such suggestions through writing and move it as a
motion in the general meeting. Such suggestion if passed, by 2/3
majority of the house shall became by-law.

- Standing Committee: The Community shall have standing Committees as follows:

I) Committee for planning and project development

II) Finance Revenue Mobilisation Committee

III) Peace and security committee

IV) Committee for publicity and organization

V) Committee for welfare and social matters

VI) Any other committee deemed necessary as at when due, like the
Audit and the Youth committee.

All chairman of these Committees shall be Ex-office members of
the Executive Committee. All committees shall consist of not less than
five members and maximum of seven members

VII) The House may at anytime and from time to time appoint and adhoc
committee to deal with specific matters.

E) FUNCTIONS OF THE COMMITTEES

I. PLANNING AND PROJECT DEVELOPMENT COMMITTEE: shall

• Plan, co-ordinate and monitor the community's capital development
programmes.

• Collate estimate of work and tender documents and process it for
the Executive Committee's consideration.

• Any other job that may be assigned to it from time to time

II) FINANCE COMMITTEE: shall:

• Plan the sources of revenue to meet of the Community.

• Organise fund raising activities

• Prepare the annual budget or budget of any project for
consideration of the Executive Committee, when shall finally be
approved by the General House.

• Collect all levies from sources of revenue to be determined by
them subject to the approval of the General house.

III) PEACE AND SECURITY COMMITTEE: shall:

• Work for the sustenance of security, law and order within the
community in collaboration with the security and law enforcement
agencies of government.

• Organise and supervise a security out fit for the community.

• Encourage unity and discourage civil disputes amongst members
of the Community.

IV) PUBLICITY AND ORGANISING COMMITTEE: shall:

• Arrange meeting/social venues.

• Working hand in hand with Secretary in informing the members of
useful information and meeting notice and social functions.

• Keep record of all the house in the community.

• Any other duty that may be assigned to it from time to time.

V) SOCIAL AND WELFARE COMMITTEE: shall:

• Be responsible for the drawing up of a blue print welfare
package for the community.

• Be responsible for collecting ONLY welfare dues from members

• Supervise all social engagement and recreational activities of
the community.

• Responsible for provision of decoration, food and refreshment/
entertainment in social gatherings.

• Keep record of attendance in the social outings of members.

• Any other job that may be assigned to it from time to time.

VI) YOUTH COMMITTEE

• The youth leader shall from a body of youths to be known as the
youth Committee.

• They shall whenever called upon assist the other Committees in
the area of security, maintenance of peace and revenue collection in
the community.

ARTICLE 1, 2 and 3 of Irowa Obazee/Igunbor Constitution

ARTICLE 1

NAME: The association shall be known and called Irowa Obazee/Igunbor
Community Development Association.

OFFICE: The registered office of the Association shall situate at the
house of the current chairman of the Association.

MOTTO: Unity For Development


ARTICLE 2

Aims And Objectives

- to mobilize the inhabitants of Irowa Obazee/Igunbor Community
towards the overall objectives of the Association which are to foster
peace, love, unity, security, development and progress amongst the
people as well as co-operate with their neighboring communities.

To identify, plan and execute self-help projects for the provistion of
social services and physical development.

- I) To confer, consult, contact and co-operate with the relevant law
enforcement agencies in the area of security of lives and property
II) The Community can also organise a vigilante group to maintain
and enforce the attainment of the security of live and property in the
Community; but the organisation of such a vigilante had to be with the
express knowledge and co-operation of the police.

- To come to the aid of needy members and felicitate with each other,
by putting a welfare package in place.

- To prosecute or defend any suit or action of law enforcement
agencies instituted against any member/community in the course of
carrying out his official duties as specified in this constitution
before any court or tribunal.

ARTICLE 3

Declaration

The association shall be non political or religious. For the avoidance
of doubt, the Association as a body shall not be involved or concerned
with political issues, movement or organisation EXCEPT when called
upon, by constituted or lawful government authority in case where an
issue is for public enlightenment.

Constitution of Irowa Obazee/Igunbor Community, Ugbowo Quarters.

INTRODUCTION

Constitution of Irowa Obazee/Igunbor community, Ugbowo Quarters, Egor
Local Government Area, Ugbowo, Benin City, Edo State, Nigeria.

MOTTO: Unity For Development.

Conscious of the fact that a government, however benevolent or
whatever the abundance of it resources cannot do everything for its
populace, and desirous of improving the lot of our community Area of
Edo Stave, Nigeria, do hereby resolve to come together, and subscribe
to this body of rules which shall be known and cited as the
constitution of irowa Obazee/Igunbor Community Development Association
as set forth here under, to regulate the conduct of the affairs of
this community.

To this end, the Irowa Obazee/Igunbor Community Development
Association shall make further review from time to time for the
furtherance of the constitution if the need arises, provided that such
rules shall be consistent with the spirit and letter of this
constitution.