FRIEND-ZONE AND FRIENDSHIP

I want to take my time and write about friendzoning. I know this word “friendzone” is a very popular word among youths, but the people that mostly fall victim of the situation are boys. Let me start by giving you guys a little definition of friendzone if you are new to the word.

friendzoned is basically a preemptive rejection where people get too comfortable with someone and see them as only a special conversation/sharing info partner 'a friend' and unconsciously reject the person as a sexual opportunity and would be shocked and appalled if that was brought up.

You're an average guy, nice, intelligent, funny, with great wit, you care about other people, whether they are strangers, friends or lovers. You try not to behave like a self-centered idiot and the last thing you would ever do is hurting a woman.

Do you match those criteria? Well if you do, you'll soon learn the definition of this word! Your crush will date a lousy self-centered prick and you'll have the honor to be the support shoulder when she realizes how bad he treats her and complains about how awful her life is, wondering why every guy she dates turns out to be a complete moron, but still she see you as just a friend, she tells you everything almost anything. She will feel so comfortable telling you are problem cause she knows that you will always listen to her and give her good advice.

Do your research intelligent and quiet guys are mostly the once falling victim of friendzoning, but almost everybody have been friend zoned one way or the other and it hurts really bad mostly when that time comes when they will come telling you how their dates(lover) cheats or play with their emotions forgetting that they have been playing with yours every now and then.

LET ME NARROW SOMETHING DOWN HERE SOMETIMES PEOPLE MISTAKE FRIENDSHIP TO FRIENDZONE.

1.                 Been friends with a woman is different from been friendzoned:

There is a common misconception among ladies and guys. Been friend-zoned and been friends with a lady is the same thing, sorry dear, they are completely different things.

The fact is, it is very healthy for you as a guy to have female friends they come in very handy, from helping do sometimes you cant do by yourself as a guy. To be be friends with a female means you have no romantic feeling for her, you do not give her any form of special treatment, she’s your friend because she is adding value to your life not because you hope she ends up been your lover, while been friend-zoned is the complete opposite of friendship.

2.                 Take Not An Average Girl Will Not Think Twice Before Friendzoning You: The average woman/girl just want to eat the cake and have it. Just like most guys want to have sex without commitment so do women want attention without giving back that same attention, all they want is, they want to be treated like a princess, with love and care and admiration not because they have feelings for you but just because of the way you make them feel. So they can mess with your feeling for months even for years under the guise of friendship guys be careful its not easy be its better to try and work on ourselves as guys.

3.                 Define what type of relationship you want from any woman from the start and communicate the definition clearly: When you mean a woman for the first time. The first question you should ask yourself is what do I want from her is it sex, romance or just friendship. Your definition should influence how you approach her, whatever your definition is never fail to communicate it to her as early as possible through words or via action, her reaction should decide your next course of action. If she does not accept your definition by all means move on.

For example: You like this particular girl in your department and you want her to be your girlfriend go woo her do not ‘I repeat’ try to be her friend in the hopes of getting her to like you, she refuses and strings you along too much bro just move on. The truth is if a girl really likes you in most cases you wouldn’t have to try so hard to get her, I have been there so I know how it works.

As a guy the greatest gift you can give any woman is your attention and your time but she must deserve this attention, do not give it to her on a platter of gold it may not be easy but it is good to know when something is too much.

For a woman to be the center of your world, you must be the center of her existence (FACT).

4.       You do not win a girls heart by trying to be just her friend: You win her heart by trying to be her lover. A lover is a friend and romantic partner meshed into one. Hit on her from the get go. Let her know you like her cause if you miss that step at the start dude you step in the direction of friendzoning, give her those seductive glances, hold her hands, make her know you want her tell her how you feel… lol I know you will say this is dem hard cause you are too close but it is better to me truthful to yourself and to her.

Remember it is not a crime to have a female friend, and is not also a crime to fall in love with your friend along the way you may not have planned it but it just happened I am in that situation now but I have to work it out soon.

Friend I know this is kinda long but I hope you pick up one or two things here. Please remember you may not have planned to fall for someone it may happen when you list expected but you have to make a move, let them know that you never had the intention of falling in love with them it just happen remember it is not a crime to fall in love we are all human so we learn everyday.

Thanks for reading.

Research Credit:  Goes to Mattew Briggs and urban dictionary.